Updated: Dec 1, 2020
I’m not a party person but a know a few that are, and wow, they kinda make me look like I live under a rock or something.
I have tried partying, have gotten stupidly drunk and then God slapped me with the cold realisation that I was only doing those things because everyone else was and that the true party was going on at my place, in my house, on my bed. . .
I love staying home, so the whole COVID-19 quarantine thing doesn’t really drop much of a problem unto on me but, there are probably people out there who are going nuts for not being able to go outside and have a good time.
I won't lie. Even I sometimes just want a little break from my house and go out on drives with my mum or ride the bike but, I fell like I just can't imagine what this whole "stay home" thing is doing to the people who, well, didn't stay home much.
I’m alright with parties, can attend a few but, wild ones are the types that I tend to steer away from.
Not my thing. (I do want to go to one of those Hillsong/Life Church Worship concerts, though).
I normally go to parties to socialise but nowadays, people seem to go to wild parties or gatherings just for the sake of getting a few drinks in, gradual (or majorly) lose control of things and let their wild sides take the wheel.
Yeah, it doesn't really sound much fun. I've been to one of those, at least, and ended up sitting at a place where many people didn't go to so that I could take a break from the atmosphere that my poor body and mind were definitely not used to. After a while, I found a few friends when it was already dark and we had fun, I won't lie, dancing but then that, too, got tiring and I was ready to go home.
To this day, when I think back on it, I remember the dancing with my friends as being fun but, the drinking part wasn't, the loud and similar songs at all times wasn't that much fun, the food was not cheap at all (not even a single bottle of water) and there weren't many places to sit at.
If my mind isn't failing me, I believe that after that, I haven't been to any concerts or wild gatherings (other than my sister's birthday party). At the beginning of 2020, though, I went to a small university party in honour of the beginning of the academic year and met quite nice people there, took lots of photos and even broke social barriers.
Gatherings like those are fun for me. No need for wild music at all times, I hadn't seen a hint of alcohol anywhere and people were taking silly and cute pictures, doing the electric slide in funky and funny ways.
That was awesome. I would take that over big and wild concerts any day (except the Worship ones. Those are my exceptions).
You see, the thing about revelries is that they are pretty much wild and uncontrollable parties and all the bunch of it, the type that involves lots of alcohol, sinful traps and mistakes awaiting.
The "Let’s party like there’s no tomorrow," kind of parties.
I’m sorry but there is a tomorrow and you should not ruin it with lascivious behaviour and sinful desires brought to you by wild parties.
It’s as if revelry took the normal definition of a party (get along with people to socialise, eat food and have a great time) and added a whole ton of sin to it — let’s get drunk, let’s hook up with random people, let’s skinny-dip. . . stuff like that.
We are called to have a gentle and quiet spirit (1 Peter 3:4), one which is very precious in the sight of God.
It's not that we are called to be quiet like not speak or anything but, to have quiet and gentle spirits, one that is spiritually mature, one that pleases God.
I don't know about you but, embracing wild and sinful behaviour *cough* getting drunk, randomly hooking up at parties* is not embracing a serene and gentle spirit.
I'm not saying that we can't go to parties as Christian girls. No, by no means.
Throughout the Bible, there have been feats, celebrations and so forth. Even our dear Lord Jesus Christ went to a wedding in Cana (John 2:1-12) and He also went to Festivals (John 7), even though they were persecuting Him already.
With that, I want to say that it's not wrong for us to go to celebrations, enjoy time with others and feast on. I'm just saying that, as girls who are here to preach about God, to live for His glory that brings eternal joy, we are not to be part of the wild/uncontrolled behaviour that comes from huge concerts, wild house parties and gatherings.
Those settings usually involve lots of worldly music (if you listen closely to the lyrics, you might be surprised at just what type of words and beliefs you are exposing yourself to), drugs and alcohol, lascivious behaviour (people grinding themselves, hookups from every corner) and temptation everywhere.
I find it really hard, I have tried, to glorify God in an environment where temptations and sin are everywhere. I thought that I could stay string while stepping into the lion's den and what happened?
The fight against sin and temptation got too wild, and that gets tiring when you are busy denying drinks all the times, having to look away from a public display of affection, having to close your ears to avoid dirty words from entering your mind because once they are in, it's another battle to get them out of your head.
We should be wise in choosing our parties, choosing how we celebrate things and we should never forget that we are supposed to do everything for God's glory (1 Corinthians 10:31).
Whether it is drinking, eating, dancing, celebrating or whatever, we are called to remember God in everything we do (Proverbs 3:6).
"so that you may prove yourselves to be blameless and guileless, innocent and uncontaminated, children of God without blemish in the midst of a [morally] crooked and [spiritually] perverted generation, among whom you are seen as bright lights [beacons shining out clearly] in the world [of darkness]."
- Philippians 2:15
Go out into this crooked and perverted generation of ours as children of God who, shinning your light (Light and Life that God himself breathed in you) in the darkness. Don't be consumed by darkness for you are children, daughters, of Light (1 Thessalonians 5:5) and light you should shine on the darkness (Matthew 5:15).
How to watch out for it?
Here are a few tips I have for you:
Consume your beverages and food moderately.
Mind where you mingle.
PRAY! Sometimes we get peer pressured and do things that we end up not being proud of, things that bring us shame. I urge you to always ask God to encourage you to stand true to your boundaries.
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