Works of the flesh series: Lasciviousness



Lasciviousness


Lasciviousness has strong references to sensual/sexual pleasures, extensively embracing the matters of excessive sensuality, disregard for public decency, sexual immorality and so forth.


Majorly, it focuses on excessive sensuality, whereby we witness women (and men) everywhere dressing in quite revealing outfits that, if looks could blind, many of us would need a white cane to get by.


You see, all over the world, there are young women like you and me, showing their bodies on social media, drawing massive attention to their displayed bodies on the streets, in the net and pretty much anywhere there might be eyes to look at them.


And, with the whole my body is y own kinda talk, it gets pretty nasty to confront certain women to cover more their bodies and show a bit more of decency, after all, they deserve better than having their bodies be seen as eye candy for every man with or without raging hormones.


Some girls feel like if they don't reveal their body, don't show more than enough skin to the world, they won't be categorised as sexy, appealing or worthy of attention. Some girls are just seeking approval from society, a little compliment here and there, a flirt along the way and so forth.


But why would you need approval from the world, which is a pretty judgy place, when you have full approval to be you from God Himself?


You see, I also used to dress for other people, trying to get a compliment here and there, fishing for hungry eyes and just wanting a girl to come to me and say "cute outfit" until I found out that it was so draining trying to gather so much attention, especially when I was feeling more detached om myself and then, I finally figured out that I was so much better than that.


That I deserved to treat myself better than that and that trying to attract men with my looks instead of my character, my personality and my soul wasn't something I wanted to do anymore.


And being with a man who was solely attracted to my body is definitely not something I want in my life.


As the years went by, I began to notice that I valued more a man who was interested in me, my weirdness, my personality, my wacko brain and all the excellencies that are me, and not just my body. A guy that was more eager to reach more for my character than for my body and a man like that is a man I want in my life.


Is a man I believe many women deserve.


You see, as Pastor John Piper said:


"The man you are attracting by showing more skin is not the man you want to marry,"

He said that due to something Jesus said in Matthew 5:27-28:


“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

I don't know about you but I want a man that loves Jesus more than he loves me (crazy, right?). I want a godly man and that man takes those words above to heart, and he wouldn't dare look at me lustfully so, he probably wouldn't be reaching me out because of how I look.


You see, it's better to grab a man by his heart and soul than by his groins and hormones.


And, just for good measure, I'm not calling you out to wear long dresses, only pants and coats to cover yourself. I'm only saying that, as women of God, we should dress modestly.


We must never forget that this body isn't ours (only). The Holy Spirit lives in us and in total respect for Him, we shouldn't be exposing His temples like they are real estates for grabs on the market.


We should treat our bodies with respect, with love and care.


I know that we women look a whole lot sexier when we are revealing too much skin, but nothing screams authentic sexuality more than a beautiful soul and mind.


What's the use of a sexy body, appearance, if the soul, heart and mind are what need a revamp?


How to watch out for it?


Here are a few tips, some that I have embraced and some that I am embracing to keep myself away from lasciviousness:

  • Redesign the meaning of sexy. A sexy soul is better than a sexy body - trust me.

  • Dress more modestly. We shouldn't be showing our bodies to everyone - they are precious things.

  • Don't worry so much about how people perceive you or about getting society's approval. You have God's love and approval and those are priceless.

  • PRAY! When you feel caught wanting to expose too much skin for attention, for approval, pray that God may bring peace and self-love to your heart.


Additional content to help you out


  • What's wrong with dressing immodestly for attention (Article) - I absolutely love Desiring God and Pastor John Piper, and this article just tells you so much more about why you shouldn't be dressing so revealingly for attention and gives you some great insights on how to treat yourself better.

One more thing:

Jesus calls us to not make each other trip in our journey with Him, and if you know that dressing in a revealing way will most likely cause our dear brothers to stumble, please do stop. They are already dealing with their own battles and they don't need roadblocks in the form of sexy coming by.


I don't think many of us would appreciate it if someone hunky man came to us dressed only in his trousers and showing us his torso, right?


It sounds like a dream until the nightmare of lustful/sinful thoughts starts kicking in.

Another thing for you:




It's like signing up for a Facebook exclusively for young women.

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Next stop: Idolatry


 

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