Updated: Dec 1, 2020
We desire many things in this life, and some are alright but, when we desire something that we don’t have with resentment and anger because someone else has, then things get really nasty, really fast.
One thing is to desire to have an amazing godly husband because you see yourself happy in that scenario and a whole other thing is to be resentful because you haven’t been gifted with that godly husband, unlike your “lucky” friend.
Envy is pretty being resentful and angry at someone for prospering where you wanted to prosper, and it can lead to really drastic outcomes.
It’s good to desire for something bigger and better but, it’s better when we are grateful for what we have, not feeling like God has walked by us and have not seen or heard about our needs.
Trust me, He has heard them all and He will take care of you.
If something is meant to be yours, by His grace and love, He will make sure that you get it. You only need to be faithful, grateful and patient. . . His timing is perfect.
I know it can be easy to get lost in hearing the needs and many desires of our hearts, having to go to sleep with our minds crowded with wishes and I know it is easier to feel like you are not being heard while the person next to you is having all their desires met in a blink of an eye.
I know, I know. . .
You prayed day in and day out for something, for years, and yet, the person who prayed after you for something they need have already received it.
You might feel ignored and a victim of injustice bur, you are not.
You might even feel like that person didn't deserve to have what they have and that you should be the one being showered with prayer answers upon prayer answers.
But, guess what?
It's not about deserving anything.
Trust me, if God was someone who gave us what we deserved, like what we really deserve, we would be done for.
But no, God gave us stuff that we didn't deserve. Stuff we earned because we believe in Him and He loves us.
He has given us many, and I mean MANY, beautiful things.
He has given us life, He has given us love, He has given us joy but, most importantly, He has given us a way (Jesus Christ) to eternal life where we will be able to the best thing to ever touch existence (Himself).
he has given us ways of discovering medicine, of getting rid of cancer, of connecting with people who are borders away from each other and all of that in its own timing. His perfect timing.
In light of that brilliant point, He will surely give you what you need, provide for you when the time is right, not when you feel like the time is right.
Yes, you and someone both asked to be captain of the football (soccer) team but, you didn't get the spot. She did.
Don't be angry with her, yourself or God. It's not your time yet.
While you wait for your prayer answer, be content with what you have and believe, because it is true, that God will give you what He has in store for you when the time is right.
Don't disturb that fragile heart of yours with hatred and resentment. Instead, water it with love and appreciation for what you have.
Be grateful for what you possess.
“But if we have food and clothing, with these we will be content.”
— 1 Timothy 6:8 AMP
We should be grateful, from the bottom of our imperfect hearts, that we have what we have, let that be little or plenty, just as Paul was satisfied with what he had in Philippians 4:12.
For me, comparison plays a big role in envying others and that’s why I’m grateful, a whole lot, that I don’t really suffer from that.
You have it bigger than me? Good, make great use of it and I will make great use of my own blessings.
We are all have been called to do great things, rather those are small or big - they are still great because our Caller is great.
Instead of wondering about what the other person has or how they are doing in life - in comparison - focus on analysing what you have and how you are doing in life, and be happy with the work, responsibilities and blessings God had given you.
I'm not saying that you should be selfish and not care for how others are doing in life, especially if they need your support to get by it. No, I'm just calling you out to stop comparing your life to others, stop measuring your success based on their and focus on being happy with what you have.
Take care of each other with love, celebrating each others' victories and balling your eyes together when hard times get you moody. Be there for one another, not against each other.
How to watch out for it?
Don't let your heart be envious, learn how to water it with love and support:
Be supportive of the success of others around you. Your time might not have yet arrived but theirs have so, be glad that God has allowed the success of someone else.
Whenever you feel envious, be quick to repeat affirmations and Scripture that will help burn down those feelings. Here are a few verses for you: 2 Peter 3:8-9, Ecclesiastes 3:1.
PRAY! Our hearts are natural beasts of sin, raging against the success of others and running on the path of sin. We need a perfect heart, God's heart and love, to tame ours and transform into the ones that are loving, caring, kind and supportive. Without God, our hearts will fall in the hands of sin.
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