How to unselfishly love like Jesus

Updated: Aug 4, 2020

There is no greater love than the one of the Lord.

That right there is the truest truth you will ever know and as the image of the Lord and for being His children, we should love others as Jesus Christ loves us.

I know some people may think that it is impossible to perfectly love like Jesus but remember that He said “A new commandment I give, that you love one another; as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.”

The Bible already says that the Lord is love, 1 John 4:16, and He loves us perfectly. However, we are not love, perfect and much less God but does not mean that His love cannot rub off on us or that we cannot love like Him.

Sure, we are imperfect and we are afraid of getting hurt when we unconditionally love the people around us. Perhaps we tried loving everyone the same ways Jesus loves us and we were crushed and burnt and we still remember the faults people have done to us.

I know that we are selfish sometimes, hurt by others and frightened of loving openly and unconditionally like Jesus Christ but we must remember that the Spirit of God resides in us, and through God anything is possible.

We must also remember that there is no fear in love, 1 John 4:18, and that we should let ourselves be vulnerable and openly love those around us. Also, remember that you are to love your enemy and do good to those who hate you, Luke 6:27.

Jesus loves those who hated Him and even those who crucified Him for he carried the love of God in Him, allowing it to be displayed and enjoyed by even those who hated him.

He died for every single one of us to show us the love God has for us and His glory, and I tell you this much:

If you ask the Lord and abide by Him, you too will be able to love like Jesus and these are some of the ways I see how we can do that:

Forgive your offenders

“Father forgive them for they do not know what they do”

- Luke 23:34.

Jesus so loved us that when He was being crucified He asked our Glorious Father to forgive us for we did not know what we were doing.

Even in pain and exhaustion, given that he carried the cross WE were supposed to carry because of the sins We, as humans, committed, He still asked God to forgive us and God forgave us.

Those people that crucified Jesus did not ask for forgiveness then but God forgave them just as much as Jesus did, even in His dying moments.

We are the image of God, Genesis 1:27, and if God can forgive them who have done Him wrong, countless times, we can do so as well.

God showed us there that He loves us so much that He is willing to forgive us for our wrong beings and offences against Him, and He still loves us even as we sin every day.

He doesn’t stop loving us when we sin and continues to love us when we repent. No, he loves us unconditionally and appreciates it deeply when we repent from the things that hurt Him and run towards Him.

Just like Him, we can forgive those who have done us wrong and still love them every day.

I know that there are some things that you can just forget but you can always forgive them. Always and remember that it is possible to forget them if we just move on and let justice be carried by the Almighty God in His own terms.

Everyone will face true and fair judgement when it comes to our actions and it will be the Lord alone that will judge every single deed and thought of ours when the day comes.

We can move on from the wrongdoings done against us by giving them to God and asking Him to take care of them, do with them what He pleases and forgive those who have done us wrong.

Get rid of your self-absorbed side

Let’s face it, we can be self-absorbed beings and quite selfish ones, putting ourselves on a pedestal and looking down on those who don’t seem to have a life better than us.

I won’t lie to you, sometimes I catch myself raising my nose in the air and trying to walk as if I was made of money amongst those who seem to be lower than myself in the social hierarchy.

It’s a nasty thing that I am slowly but surely killing by remembering that we are all one in Christ, Romans 12:5, and that we are no better than those who are less or more fortunate than us.

Jesus is the incarnation of God and we all know that there aren’t words enough to describe just how AMAZING God is. He came here for us, He is a King, the Saviour yet He lived as men did, faced the same as men faces and dealt with things that had and re still presented to men those and these days. and you know what?

He never looked down on us no matter how filthy we were with the many sins we carried, no matter how negligent of His coming we were and no matter our wrongdoings, Jesus never looked down on us.

If we are one in Christ, vessels of the Holy Spirit and image’s of the Lord, why do we look down on others?

They are all our brothers, and it is written in The Bible “If a man says that he loves God and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he that doesn’t love his brother who he sees, how can he love God who he has not seen?” - 1 John 4:20.

No one has seen God yet we love Him deeply but how is it possible that we don’t love those who we do see?

Perhaps you are richer than me, more successful than myself and have more in your possession than myself but I want you to know that I ask the Lord to bless you when I am praying.

Not all the times, I will confess, but whenever I remember to bless those around me, the Holy Spirit also reminds me that there are around 7 billion people out there who also need God’s blessing.

I bet I don’t know you and you probably don’t know me but I still love you enough to want you to be blessed and know the full love and glory of God, regardless of where you are in the world.

Whenever I catch myself trying to boast myself amongst my peers, I remind myself that I am no better than any of those people and that all of those have been given a purpose by God and they are loved by God.

God’s love is to shine through us to those around us and if we are taken as fools or something just because we are loving others as God expects us to, then so be it for we are not what the world says we are but we are what God says we are and it is written that we are His image and His children and the ones He wants to use to bring back home the lost sheep.

Love everyone, regardless of their social status, economic status, religion, race or whatever other reason the enemy might try to use it to tell you why not to love someone.

I am a Christian, proudly so even, but I have Muslim friends that I really love and they love me back.

Just the same way I love my Muslim friends, I can love everyone else in this world and so can you for we are all one in Christ, we are no better than the other so get yourself out of that pedestal and start spreading out the love of the Lord.

And also remember this:

“Do nothing out of selfish ambitions or conceit but in humility consider others as more important than yourselves

— Philippians 2:3

Be bold in your love

“God gave us the spirit of love and self-control, not of fear”

- 1 Timothy 1:7.

It can be scary to love others openly and vulnerably for we probably know the pain of being betrayed by those who we love the most or not have the same love reciprocated.

However, we must remember that God has given us many amazing gifts of the spirit and fear was definitely not one of them.

Fear is not of God, it’s of the enemy and he is using fear to strip you away from what God has in store for you and all the rewards you can get for just trusting God to handle everything.

I believe that we fear things we are worried about.

We fear/worry about not being loved back. We fear/worry about being hurt by those who we love and we forget that it is written to not worry about anything but to pray about everything, Philippians 4:6.

Love freely with no worries, let God craft your path as you take the steps to fulfil His will and He wants us to love each other

Jesus Christ loves purely and openly and He was not afraid to do so for He knew that His love was the answer that many people were asking for and that His love saved this world.

Our Lord and Saviour loved boldly for He feared nothing for He trusted the power and protection of God more than the power of whichever challenge was placed before Him.

We also have that, the power of God dwelling in us as the Holy Spirit and we Have the whole Trinity to trust when we face challenges, even ones that were crafted by the enemy to bring fear into our lives.

Remember this, no matter what you face in life, God will always be there for you and it is written that God will fight for us in Exodus 14:14. Our great Lord will also fight our fears if we just allow Him to by giving them to Him and stay calm in His embrace.

So I tell you, dear wonderful brother and sister, to love boldly and to remember this:

“There’s no fear in love”

— 1 John 4:18

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