How to make the most of the seasonal relationships in your life
Updated: Aug 10, 2021
Not everyone that comes into your life will stay in your life forever, but, for the time that they are there, these are the ways you can make the most of it:
Do something memorable together
The thing about your seasonal relationships is that you know that you have an estimated time of its end, just as I am aware that all the people I am interacting with in University won't all be there with me after it.
That said, it warms my heart to just think of all the memorable things we can do and how special it would be to capture those memories in pictures, videos and our minds.
For instance, not saying that our relationship won't last, I am planning on doing something memorable with my friend Trevor who will be finishing his Undergraduate career soon.
I want all of his friends, myself included, to be present and do something enjoyable and memorable together, in honour of our relationship with the quite awesome guy.
We don't know what the future holds for any of us so, much as well make something memorable with the people we have in our lives, regardless of how long they will be there for.
Learn something from each other/leave a mark in each other's life
God has blessed me with lots of smart people and I have learnt that anyone can teach me anything, whether they have a higher or lower higher educational level than myself.
That said, the people that are in your life now can teach you something that will prove itself valuable tomorrow, in a few weeks or even years.
As I have said before, I have smart people in my life and I bet that I have learnt a lot from them and many of them have been there to teach me how to see things from a different angle, how to see myself and others in better lenses - in godly lenses - and how to deal with hard situations.
So, in your relationships, seeks and make opportunities to learn from each other, for you can learn from anyone, even that one person who will be in your life for only a year or two. Or even a few weeks.
Don't wonder about the future of your relationship. Enjoy it while it lasts
Sometimes, I reflect on my relationships here on campus and I wonder for how long will I have the people I have right now?
Sometimes, the simple fact that some of the people I know will graduate this year and I will most likely never see them again can make me feel anxious and sorrowful... If I allow it to.
Sure, it is not a good feeling that comes with the thought that the people you enjoy your days with will most likely depart from your life once you stop seeing each other for a long time. Yet, it is your choice to let that thought either drop you in a pit of anxiety and sadness or a place where you feel motivated to make the most of the relationships.
I have friends who will be graduating this year, some even this semester, and I could sit here in my comfy room and sulk about it or go after pen and paper, and jot down all the ways that I can make the most of these touching relationships.
I don't know much about the place where you are staying, but where I am there are more than 50 things that I can do with the people around me, from Ice Skating to Bunjee-jumping all the way to watching a simple movie together in one of our dorm rooms.
Why waste time worrying about how long the relationship will be when you can use that time to spend with the people around you?
Be intentional with them
Though I said that you shouldn't worry about the future of your relationship, I didn't mean that you should just jump into casual ones for the sake of making the most of them.
I am not saying that you should go into casual relationships just because you never know what tomorrow will offer.
No, that's definitely not what I am saying.
As Christians, we should be intentional people, fully aware that everything we do, should be done in remembrance of God (Proverbs 3:6), and that includes all the relationships we found ourselves in.
It is important to know what are your intentions with the people you regularly commune with and if those intentions align with your beliefs and who you are called to be.
Do those intentions go hand-in-hand with what God has said and who you are in Christ?
It is easy to just jump into relationships, especially romantic ones, just for the sake of not wanting to be lonely/single anymore and jumping into relationships with no clear and godly goals is kind of a recipe for disaster or, at the very least, heartache.
I am not saying to go on a date with someone with the idea that you are going to marry them because, after all, you don't really know what tomorrow will bring. Yet, make sure you a stepping into such relationships with a clear goal.
On the other friend, with more platonic ones, make sure that you don't see them as some temporary thing.
Unless you actually know for how long they will last, I suggest you start looking and treating your relationships as long-term aspects of your life, intentionally building them up to something fruitful and beautiful.
Encourage each other
The people in your life have dreams and goals, and a whole bunch of things that they wish to do, and if you believe that they should go for it, then encourage them to.
Sometimes, people just need someone to cheer them on to pursue those dreams or ambitions they thought were far-fetched and you can be that person to whoever is around you.
It doesn't even need to be about something major in their life or mind; a word of advice and encouragement here and there about them re-evaluating their values, life and everything that some might consider little is commendable.
Trust me, I have had many friends advise me to re-evaluate my values and standards, and for good reasons.
I love my friends, regardless of how long they have been in my life. Thanks to God and them, and my family - of course - I have a life that puts a smile on my face. After all, no matter how messy, complex, beautiful and strange it may be, they are there with me and I hope to make the most of it.